Tuesday, August 30, 2011

life: Everyone is outstanding at something.....

so find what it is and own it.

I believe to succeed, you need to do something different than everyone else. Use your unique set of abilities to succeed to achieve extraordinary results.

4 ways to stand out

1. What makes you unique?
The answer to this question will make a huge difference for your future. Assess yourself and take stock of your strengths and weaknesses. Practice this ability daily and learn what you are good at and what makes you unique, you will be way ahead of the pack. Then when you know what makes you unique you can start thinking about how to use those abilities to do something that no one else can do can do and create something amazing.

2. Go the extra distance
Are you looking at the clock waiting for the work day to be over? Most people do. The ones who don’t though, the ones who work hard all day, they are the most successful people. Since you have to be at work anyway, you might as well work your ass off. Do more than is expected of you.

3. Read 1 hour/day
Knowledge is power. Reading increases your knowledge base, improves vocabulary and gives you a multitude of conversation starters. Also if you read about your chosen industry it increases your competence and ability. You should strive to be the most knowledgeable person in your industry and this will make you the most valuable.

4. Work out daily and try to stay active
I believe staying in shape makes an incredible difference for your success. It increases your energy levels and it makes you look better. Your appearance is judged on a daily basis, and most people care a lot about how you look. Looking and feeling good will lead to more opportunities.

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

life: message overload

My friend emails me this past weekend telling me to download LiveProfile - a new instant messaging app for my BlackBerry. Do I need another way to host multiple conversations on my mobile? No.
Our generation has a crazy appetite for instant messaging and it does not seem satisfied, demonstrated by the introduction of yet another cross-platform app. On March 25th, this latest version surged to one million users just 5 days after launching an app for BlackBerry users. It has already been readily available for Android and Apple users.

I am having enough trouble keeping up with the various ways to connect with people now; BBM, SMS, Gmail chat, Facebook, Skype, LinkedIn, Twitter, email and of course the actual phone.

The pressure to keep up with the rapid changes in technology diminishes our ability to nurture meaningful relationships. Blackberries and cell phones are an intrusive third wheel at the dinner table and everyone scans status updates and online photo albums instead of planning face-to-face catch-up sessions. People check them in meetings, while driving, in the bathroom, will it ever stop?

Maintaining a constant stream of texts, bbim messages, pins, tweets and posts don't really seem like networking anymore, it just seems like work.

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

life: draw a blueprint

Whenever friends talk to me about what to do next in their careers, or how to find something they are passionate about, I really want to give them some good advice or words of encouragement. But I know in reality, the advice I give does not instantly uncover this for them. While in search of some motivation myself, I stumbled upon a great speech by MLK. If you are in need of a little motivation to find what you want your life to be about or if you are lost right now and trying to find your path, read the below transcript from Martin Luther King’s speech at a Philadelphia high school in 1967:

I want to ask you a question, and that is: What is your life’s blueprint?

Whenever a building is constructed, you usually have an architect who draws a blueprint, and that blueprint serves as the pattern, as the guide, and a building is not well erected without a good, solid blueprint.

Now each of you is in the process of building the structure of your lives, and the question is whether you have a proper, a solid and a sound blueprint.

I want to suggest some of the things that should begin your life’s blueprint. Number one in your life’s blueprint, should be a deep belief in your own dignity, your worth and your own somebodiness. Don’t allow anybody to make you feel that you’re nobody. Always feel that you count. Always feel that you have worth, and always feel that your life has ultimate significance.

Secondly, in your life’s blueprint you must have as the basic principle the determination to achieve excellence in your various fields of endeavor. You’re going to be deciding as the days, as the years unfold what you will do in life — what your life’s work will be. Set out to do it well.

And I say to you, my young friends, doors are opening to you–doors of opportunities that were not open to your mothers and your fathers — and the great challenge facing you is to be ready to face these doors as they open.

Ralph Waldo Emerson, the great essayist, said in a lecture in 1871, “If a man can write a better book or preach a better sermon or make a better mousetrap than his neighbor, even if he builds his house in the woods, the world will make a beaten path to his door.”

This hasn’t always been true — but it will become increasingly true, and so I would urge you to study hard, to burn the midnight oil; I would say to you, don’t drop out of school. I understand all the sociological reasons, but I urge you that in spite of your economic plight, in spite of the situation that you’re forced to live in — stay in school.

And when you discover what you will be in your life, set out to do it as if God Almighty called you at this particular moment in history to do it. Don’t just set out to do a good job. Set out to do such a good job that the living, the dead or the unborn couldn’t do it any better.

If it falls your lot to be a street sweeper, sweep streets like Michelangelo painted pictures, sweep streets like Beethoven composed music, sweep streets like Leontyne Price sings before the Metropolitan Opera. Sweep streets like Shakespeare wrote poetry. Sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will have to pause and say: Here lived a great street sweeper who swept his job well. If you can’t be a pine at the top of the hill, be a shrub in the valley. Be be the best little shrub on the side of the hill.

Be a bush if you can’t be a tree. If you can’t be a highway, just be a trail. If you can’t be a sun, be a star. For it isn’t by size that you win or fail. Be the best of whatever you are.


Thursday, March 17, 2011

life: too much

I feel like I'm drowning, and there is no one or nothing to grab on to.
there is not enough time, not enough hours in the day.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Celebrity: Celine Dion Returns to Vegas

She’s back at Caesars for a multiyear run that will reportedly earn her $100 million. Last night was the kick-off. Celine belongs in Vegas, at Caesars, in the house they built for her. I want to go, like if I can only afford one show in Vegas, I would go to hers. Even though I am not her biggest fan, some of her songs from the 90's still bring back a lot of memories.

Click here for a good article on how much Vegas needs Celine, and how Celine feels about being needed.

I saw her live at the ACC 2 years ago and it was a great concert, she is cheesy sometimes, but you can't deny her talent, her amazing voice. But you also cant deny how she always looks like she is in awe of everything, like everything is a miracle, everything is just soo precious. Cheese.

But some people straight up sobbing in the aisles when she sings. Why would you deny yourself the opportunity for such entertainment?


Friday, March 4, 2011

life: until its not there........

I have finally realized how important my running and trips to the gym were. I have been feeling lethargic, un-energetic, un-healthy and general BLAH.

Basically due to sitting on my ass all day at work and studying after work . The way my hips crack everytime I move them is starting to scare me a little...I sit WAY to much.

so I made a pact that I would run at least half an hour every other day and then do the machines at goodlife every other day that I am not running, It lasted 3 days, but I already started feeling better.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

life: Diversity

I am grateful for the diversity that surrounds me in new friends, coworkers and classmates these days. I feel that it is the most diverse network of people I have experienced since my term studying abroad in 2004. I am learning so much from them. Going to an all-girls catholic high-school and university surrounded predominantly by Chinese people have somewhat limited the exposure to other cultures during those years. But despite the seemingly downside to this, the experience gave me a great understanding of my Cantonese roots, allowed me to learn about "fobby" things and the ability to immerse myself in the culture by working in Hong Kong. So for all of that I do not regret the slightly "undiverse" experience.

Now in my master's program and on my current project at work I sometimes find myself to be the only Asian girl around, which has been extremely rare in my life up to this point. I find myself asking question after question about other's home countries, their rituals, the food they eat, the way their families live. I love learning about it, I love trying the food they bring, I love learning phrases in their mother tongue. Whereas in the past I was not always learning or maybe not appreciating my own culture as much because all the other Asian people around me had similar upbringings and cultural habits. But now, being the only Asian in the group provides me the opportunity to teach or tell others about my culture. It gives me a sense of pride and a renewed appreciation of my culture, its values and practices.

Friday, November 5, 2010

life: What are you grateful for?

I read somewhere today that you should start off your day by writing 3 things you are grateful for. It brings you peace and serenity and reminds you how lucky you are and also to appreciate what you have.

my 3 things for today:
1) my health. The ability to still run around playing floor hockey, getting slashed on the shins and hand but feeling so energized after playing.
2) my parents. Its my mom's birthday today, she is half way across the world in Malaysia, but we are closer this year than ever before.
3) being able to sleep in an extra 15 mins today!

Friday, August 13, 2010

life: More than just a melody...

I believe that stories, books and the written word change us... above all song lyrics truly change us.

Do you find inspiration in the lyrics of a song? I can find both comfort and joy in the lyrics to a song. When I hear a new song, the very first thing I listen to, are the lyrics and what the songwriter is trying to convey.
This is the best analogy I have heard about this:
A melody is like a woman in a bar that you are instantly attracted to – the part that hooks you. The lyrics are what make you fall in love with that person.

I love connecting with people ... I love learning about their experiences, their lives, their feelings and this is exactly what you are doing when you hear the lyrics of their song.

How powerful are the lyrics to Grenade by Bruno Mars:
Gave you all I had
And you tossed it in the trash
You tossed it in the trash, you did
To give me all your love is all I ever asked, Cause what you don't understand is
I’d catch a grenade for ya
Throw my hand on a blade for ya
I’d jump in front of a train for ya
You know I'd do anything for ya
I would go through all this pain, Take a bullet straight through my brain,
Yes, I would die for ya baby ; But you won't do the same....

..catching a grenade for someone or taking a bullet straight through the brain both create such strong visuals in my mind, which is more powerful and makes a bigger impact than if he just said I'd do anything for you..

Saturday, July 17, 2010

friends: Emcee at a wedding

I was one of the emcee's at my friend's wedding on Friday. My goal was to be funny and entertaining yet still be efficient and ensure the reception activities were on time.

First, I wanted to introduce the parents and bridal party with music that would get the crowd super excited, I wanted it to be upbeat, fun and personal -- where stories and tidbits from the bride and groom about their bridal party members are shared. I thought this would give the audience some background...some context. When I go to weddings, I love hearing the personal stories, hearing how the bride and groom met, embarrassing stories etc..

Cara and I scoured Value Village and Wal-mart for the costumes and of course my mom, who is seamstress extraordinaire, made some of them too. The photographer loved it and here it is.

But rather than being humorous, I think I was actually a little dry and boring.. because I was very concerned about cramming everything in before 10pm. Would you rather the emcees try and make the audience laugh and crack jokes or just let you know what is going to happen next, plain and simple?

Sunday, July 4, 2010

life: laugh and enjoy today

I was at a BBQ yesterday where there were 3 little girls. I was glad that there are still kids out there that can find joy in the simple things, things like blowing bubbles and chasing them around the yard for hours, in a complete absence of TV, computers or video games.

I was so happy making them laugh.

These kids reminded me to try and slow down the constant rush in my life and try to appreciate the everyday laughs and do things that bring me joy and a smile to my face. I find that sometimes I am so fixated on reaching long term goals and experiencing things far in the future, that I don’t always celebrate the small successes and appreciate the happy moments occurring today.

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Life: Fear

Fear is one of the worst, and most limiting, emotions in life. Everyone experiences fear at one point or another. But I think life is a process of taking these experiences and emotions that we are scared of and working through them, conquering them, until they are no longer scary to us. We need to trust that it is beyond our human control, understand that our spirit can survive a lot more than we can imagine and just let things happen.

So from today on, I am going to try my best to stop worrying about:

1) Failure. It doesn't exist. "Failure" is just what happens when we lose perspective. Failure is an unavoidable low point, no more or less important than the successes in my life. Nobody is perfect and if you didn't fail you would never learn or grow as a person.

2) Accepting compliments. I thought acknowledging praise meant you were cocky and arrogant, but I am trying to learn that knowing your strengths enables you to make use of them to benefit others. And everyone has a strength in something.

3) Being a "bitch". If everyone likes you or what you have to say, it probably means you aren't saying much.

Man Up!

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Life: Feeling passion.. for anything

Passion and satisfaction go hand in hand. Without them, happiness is temporary. Passion fills the void and the tedious moments in life. Without a passion, you lack true feeling. I need to find this passion. I know there are many things in life that catches your eye, but few things truly capture your heart, I need to pursue those.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Celeb: Oscars



Sandra Bullock gave the most unforgettable Oscar acceptance speech ever. She was so gracious, she acknowledged her colleagues, she thanked all the mothers out there, she did not make it all about herself.

It was hers to lose. You see the silent, strong support she gets from Jesse James and she thanks him every chance she gets. She has paid her dues in Hollywood for more than 20 years now. She has earned it.
Asked where she would put the Oscar and the Razzie, Bullock replied, "They'll sit side-by-side on a shelf somewhere, the Razzie maybe on a different shelf, lower."

Monday, March 1, 2010

Celeb: Michael Phelps can't tell us apart?

___________________________

Dear Michael Phelps,

All Asian girls do not look alike.
Thanks for assuming we do.

Sincerely,
Asian girl
____________________________


OMG. I thought he dated an Asian girl before (Remember that Vegas cocktail waitress) photos here, so he has had exposure to "our kind" before. Maybe they were too busy with other activities and never got around to discussing her ethnicity or notice how her face differentiates from another Asian girl.

So on CTV Olympic Morning last week, Jessi and Dan dared Lainey to give Michael Phelps a kiss at an Omega party. Then Scott Lago (American snowboarder who won Bronze) gets caught with pictures of him and an Asian chick putting his bronze medal in her mouth Click here. He volunteers to leave the Olympics, gets home and appears on Jimmy Kimmel..
Watch it all explained here.
Now some Americans out there think Lainey is the reason Scott Lago was sent home from the Olympics.

I don't know why I feel so strongly about this, maybe because I have tried my whole life not to look like the typical Asian girl with long, straight black hair and brown eyes. It seems done in vain.

Stop spreading rumours Michael Phelps, it only shows us signs of your ignorance!

Monday, February 22, 2010

Olympics: Good friends or gold medals?

Would Shaun White be as amazing as he is if he made friends with other boarders and trained with them?

In his piece on 60 minutes, a quote was read to him about how the other snowboarders felt sad for him because he was alone at the top and trained alone. And although they are not number 1, they have the support of the other boarders around them at all times. At that point. I came to realize that in addition to the financial and physical life sacrifices one has to make to be at the top of their game, they also have to give up something emotional.

Scott Lago put together one of the best runs of his life to win the surprise bronze on a night still overshadowed by Shaun White and his gold-medal performance. I'm sure it is frustrating and hard to be friends with someone who dominates the sport you love and shows no signs of ever sharing the top spot with anyone.

Therefore I have come to the conclusion that Shaun White would not be as amazing as he is if he made it a priority to be friends with other snowboarders, train with them, show them his tricks and share his top-secret training facility.


Its lonely at the top, but at least you have the security of gold and the love of strangers all over the world.

Friday, February 12, 2010

News: Jaycee Dugard

how does one person create so much mind control, dependency and blind obedience over another to allow them to remain a sexual prisoner for 18 years in a backyard?

Jaycee Dugard, the California woman who was kidnapped as a child and held as a sexual prisoner for 18 years, both feared and felt protective of the man charged with holding her.

She actually felt bad for hurting him. I cannot fathom how you can feel that way towards someone who was harming you the way he was.