life: What are you grateful for?

I read somewhere today that you should start off your day by writing 3 things you are grateful for. It brings you peace and serenity and reminds you how lucky you are and also to appreciate what you have.

my 3 things for today:
1) my health. The ability to still run around playing floor hockey, getting slashed on the shins and hand but feeling so energized after playing.
2) my parents. Its my mom's birthday today, she is half way across the world in Malaysia, but we are closer this year than ever before.
3) being able to sleep in an extra 15 mins today!

life: More than just a melody...

I believe that stories, books and the written word change us... above all song lyrics truly change us.

Do you find inspiration in the lyrics of a song? I can find both comfort and joy in the lyrics to a song. When I hear a new song, the very first thing I listen to, are the lyrics and what the songwriter is trying to convey.
This is the best analogy I have heard about this:

A melody is like a woman in a bar that you are instantly attracted to – the part that hooks you. The lyrics are what make you fall in love with that person.

I love connecting with people ... I love learning about their experiences, their lives, their feelings and this is exactly what you are doing when you hear the lyrics of their song.

How powerful are the lyrics to Grenade by Bruno Mars:
Gave you all I had
And you tossed it in the trash
You tossed it in the trash, you did
To give me all your love is all I ever asked, Cause what you don't understand is
I’d catch a grenade for ya
Throw my hand on a blade for ya
I’d jump in front of a train for ya
You know I'd do anything for ya
I would go through all this pain, Take a bullet straight through my brain,
Yes, I would die for ya baby ; But you won't do the same....

..catching a grenade for someone or taking a bullet straight through the brain both create such strong visuals in my mind, which is more powerful and makes a bigger impact than if he just said I'd do anything for you..

friends: Emcee at a wedding

I was one of the emcee's at my friend's wedding on Friday. My goal was to be funny and entertaining yet still be efficient and ensure the reception activities were on time.

First, I wanted to introduce the parents and bridal party with music that would get the crowd super excited, I wanted it to be upbeat, fun and personal -- where stories and tidbits from the bride and groom about their bridal party members are shared. I thought this would give the audience some background...some context. When I go to weddings, I love hearing the personal stories, hearing how the bride and groom met, embarrassing stories etc..

Cara and I scoured Value Village and Wal-mart for the costumes and of course my mom, who is seamstress extraordinaire, made some of them too. The photographer loved it and here it is.

But rather than being humorous, I think I was actually a little dry and boring.. because I was very concerned about cramming everything in before 10pm. Would you rather the emcees try and make the audience laugh and crack jokes or just let you know what is going to happen next, plain and simple?

life: laugh and enjoy today

I was at a BBQ yesterday where there were 3 little girls. I was glad that there are still kids out there that can find joy in the simple things, things like blowing bubbles and chasing them around the yard for hours, in a complete absence of TV, computers or video games.

I was so happy making them laugh.

These kids reminded me to try and slow down the constant rush in my life and try to appreciate the everyday laughs and do things that bring me joy and a smile to my face. I find that sometimes I am so fixated on reaching long term goals and experiencing things far in the future, that I don’t always celebrate the small successes and appreciate the happy moments occurring today.

Life: Fear

Fear is one of the worst, and most limiting, emotions in life. Everyone experiences fear at one point or another. But I think life is a process of taking these experiences and emotions that we are scared of and working through them, conquering them, until they are no longer scary to us. We need to trust that it is beyond our human control, understand that our spirit can survive a lot more than we can imagine and just let things happen.

So from today on, I am going to try my best to stop worrying about:

1) Failure. It doesn't exist. "Failure" is just what happens when we lose perspective. Failure is an unavoidable low point, no more or less important than the successes in my life. Nobody is perfect and if you didn't fail you would never learn or grow as a person.

2) Accepting compliments. I thought acknowledging praise meant you were cocky and arrogant, but I am trying to learn that knowing your strengths enables you to make use of them to benefit others. And everyone has a strength in something.

3) Being a "bitch". If everyone likes you or what you have to say, it probably means you aren't saying much.

Man Up!

Life: Feeling passion.. for anything

Passion and satisfaction go hand in hand. Without them, happiness is temporary. Passion fills the void and the tedious moments in life. Without a passion, you lack true feeling. I need to find this passion. I know there are many things in life that catches your eye, but few things truly capture your heart, I need to pursue those.

Celeb: Oscars

Sandra Bullock gave the most unforgettable Oscar acceptance speech ever. She was so gracious, she acknowledged her colleagues, she thanked all the mothers out there, she did not make it all about herself.

It was hers to lose. You see the silent, strong support she gets from Jesse James and she thanks him every chance she gets. She has paid her dues in Hollywood for more than 20 years now. She has earned it.
Asked where she would put the Oscar and the Razzie, Bullock replied, "They'll sit side-by-side on a shelf somewhere, the Razzie maybe on a different shelf, lower."

Celeb: Michael Phelps can't tell us apart?

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Dear Michael Phelps,

All Asian girls do not look alike.
Thanks for assuming we do.

Sincerely,
Asian girl
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OMG. I thought he dated an Asian girl before (Remember that Vegas cocktail waitress) photos here, so he has had exposure to "our kind" before. Maybe they were too busy with other activities and never got around to discussing her ethnicity or notice how her face differentiates from another Asian girl.

So on CTV Olympic Morning last week, Jessi and Dan dared Lainey to give Michael Phelps a kiss at an Omega party. Then Scott Lago (American snowboarder who won Bronze) gets caught with pictures of him and an Asian chick putting his bronze medal in her mouth Click here. He volunteers to leave the Olympics, gets home and appears on Jimmy Kimmel..
Watch it all explained here.
Now some Americans out there think Lainey is the reason Scott Lago was sent home from the Olympics.

I don't know why I feel so strongly about this, maybe because I have tried my whole life not to look like the typical Asian girl with long, straight black hair and brown eyes. It seems done in vain.

Stop spreading rumours Michael Phelps, it only shows us signs of your ignorance!

Olympics: Good friends or gold medals?

Would Shaun White be as amazing as he is if he made friends with other boarders and trained with them?

In his piece on 60 minutes, a quote was read to him about how the other snowboarders felt sad for him because he was alone at the top and trained alone. And although they are not number 1, they have the support of the other boarders around them at all times. At that point. I came to realize that in addition to the financial and physical life sacrifices one has to make to be at the top of their game, they also have to give up something emotional.

Scott Lago put together one of the best runs of his life to win the surprise bronze on a night still overshadowed by Shaun White and his gold-medal performance. I'm sure it is frustrating and hard to be friends with someone who dominates the sport you love and shows no signs of ever sharing the top spot with anyone.

Therefore I have come to the conclusion that Shaun White would not be as amazing as he is if he made it a priority to be friends with other snowboarders, train with them, show them his tricks and share his top-secret training facility.

Its lonely at the top, but at least you have the security of gold and the love of strangers all over the world.

News: Jaycee Dugard

how does one person create so much mind control, dependency and blind obedience over another to allow them to remain a sexual prisoner for 18 years in a backyard?

Jaycee Dugard, the California woman who was kidnapped as a child and held as a sexual prisoner for 18 years, both feared and felt protective of the man charged with holding her.

She actually felt bad for hurting him. I cannot fathom how you can feel that way towards someone who was harming you the way he was.